Tarot Questions to Ask
Updated 2026-10-11 · 9 min read
“Will they text?” is an understandable question. You are waiting, and you would like to know. The awkward part is that a card is not their reply. It can help you consider whether to reach out, what you want to say, and what you will do if you hear nothing.
Keep the concern you actually came with. If you are worried about a job interview, ask about the interview. If you want to talk about your relationship, name the conversation you need to have. You do not need to turn either question into a grand lesson about your life.
Choose a question and a spread
Start with a question below and change it to fit your situation. Choose one card for a single point to consider, or three cards to compare the parts of the question.
What makes a useful tarot question?
Give the cards one situation to address. “What should I do?” could concern almost anything. “How can I respond to the feedback my manager gave me yesterday?” tells you what the reading is about.
- Name the concern. Say which job, conversation, or choice you mean.
- Ask one main question. If you need to decide whether to contact someone, start there. You can ask how to word the message after you have considered the decision.
- Give each position a job. “What I want / What makes the talk difficult / How to begin” will produce a different reading from “Past / Present / Future.” Choose before drawing.
- Leave room for an answer you can check. A reading might suggest asking about the working hours. The employer can tell you what those hours are.
A one-card spread is enough for one point of advice. Three cards help when you need to compare options or examine a difficulty and a possible response. More cards also give you more things to interpret; start with the amount you can follow.
Six ways to make the question more specific
The first questions below are ordinary worries, not bad questions. The rewrites keep the worry and give the reading a smaller, clearer task.
Will I get the job?
Try asking: “How can I prepare for Thursday’s interview?”
You still care about getting the job. This question gives you something to do before the employer decides: choose an example, practise an answer, or ask about the role.
Do they still love me?
Try asking: “How can I ask them where we stand?”
The uncertainty is real. A reading can help you prepare that conversation; their answer and their behaviour tell you what they want.
Will my ex come back?
Try asking: “What should I consider before contacting my ex?”
Use this if you are deciding whether to reach out. Ask why you want contact, what has changed, and what you would do if they do not reply. If you do not want contact, ask what would help you move on instead.
Should I quit?
Try asking: “What would I gain and give up by leaving this job?”
Name the job and the alternative. Compare the work, hours, pay, and commitments you actually know. A card can suggest a point to examine; check it against those facts.
Will my business work?
Try asking: “What should I test before putting more time into this business?”
A useful answer might point to the offer, the customer, or the work involved. Turn that into a small test whose result you can observe.
Am I making a mistake?
Try asking: “What am I overlooking as I choose between these two apartments?”
Say which decision is worrying you. For these apartments, a reading might prompt you to check a lease term, travel time, or expense before choosing.
Fifteen questions for work, relationships, and decisions
Use these as starting points. Change the details and positions to fit the question you are actually asking.
Work: five questions and suggested spreads
- How can I prepare for my job interview?
- One card: One thing to prepare.
Three cards: Experience to show / What to prepare / How to communicate it. - How can I respond to the feedback my manager gave me?
- One card: My next response.
Three cards: What to understand / What to ask about / My next response. - What is one step I can take to reduce my workload this week?
- One card: One step this week.
Three cards: What is taking my time / What I can change / One step this week. - What would help me finish the project I keep putting off?
- One card: The next task.
Three cards: Where I am stuck / What would help / The next task. - How can I put my suggestion forward at our next meeting?
- One card: How to put it forward.
Three cards: What I want to say / What to prepare for / How to put it forward.
Relationships: five questions and suggested spreads
- How can I ask the person I am dating where we stand?
- One card: How to begin the conversation.
Three cards: What I want / What makes the talk difficult / How to begin. - How can I talk to my friend after our argument?
- One card: How to begin the conversation.
Three cards: What I need to acknowledge / What to listen for / How to begin. - What should I consider before contacting my ex?
- One card: What to consider before contacting them.
Three cards: Why I want contact / What I may be overlooking / What to do next. - How can I tell my family I cannot keep saying yes to this request?
- One card: How to say it.
Three cards: What I can offer / What I cannot keep doing / How to say it. - How can I tell my friend that their help mattered?
- One card: How to express my thanks.
Three cards: What I appreciated / What makes it hard to say / How to express my thanks.
A decision: five questions and suggested spreads
- What should I compare before choosing between my job and the new offer?
- One card: What to compare before choosing.
Three cards: Staying in my job / Accepting the offer / What to compare. - What am I overlooking as I choose between these two places to live?
- One card: What I may be overlooking.
Three cards: The first place / The second place / What I may be overlooking. - What should I consider before agreeing to another commitment?
- One card: What to consider before saying yes.
Three cards: What saying yes would involve / What saying no would allow / What matters in this choice. - What should I check before signing up for this course?
- One card: One thing to check.
Three cards: What I want to learn / What the commitment involves / One thing to check. - What would help me decide whether to change the choice I already made?
- One card: What to examine before changing my choice.
Three cards: Why I chose it / What I know now / What to consider changing.
Three worked readings: how the question changes the interpretation
These are teaching examples with cards chosen to show the method. All cards are upright. Each card answers its own position, then the cards are read together.
Work: preparing for an interview
You have an interview on Thursday. You know your work, but answering questions on the spot makes you nervous.
Question: “How can I prepare for my job interview?”
Experience to show
What to prepare
How to communicate it
Eight of Pentacles · Experience to show: The worker makes one pentacle after another. Start with a skill you have used repeatedly. Choose a real example: what you did, what went wrong, and how you handled it. “I’m hardworking” gives the interviewer less to work with than a specific piece of work.
Five of Wands · What to prepare: Five people raise their staffs in different directions. As preparation, this fits the difficulty of organising several points at once. Practise giving one answer from beginning to end. Ask a friend to interrupt with a follow-up question so you can try getting back to your point.
Three of Pentacles · How to communicate it: A worker shows their work to two other people. Explain what you contributed and how you worked with others. If you helped solve a problem, say what your part was and how the result was checked.
Read together: The repeated pentacles make demonstrated skill central to this reading. The Five of Wands adds a practical difficulty: explaining that skill under pressure. Prepare one example, practise the follow-up, and make your contribution clear.
These cards do not establish that you will get the offer. They give you a preparation plan you can use before Thursday.
Relationships: asking where you stand
You have been seeing someone for a few weeks. You enjoy it, but neither of you has said whether you want to keep dating exclusively.
Question: “How can I ask the person I am dating where we stand?”
Two of Cups · What I want: Two people face each other and each brings a cup. In this position, the card fits wanting mutual interest and a clear agreement. Before you ask what they want, put your own preference into words: “I’d like to keep seeing you, and I’m interested in being exclusive.”
Two of Swords · What makes the talk difficult: The seated figure is blindfolded and holds two crossed swords. You may be delaying the question because either answer would require a decision. Ask whether waiting is giving you more information or simply putting the conversation off.
Page of Cups · How to begin: The Page offers a cup while looking at the surprising fish inside it. A small, sincere opening fits here. Tell them what you would like, then ask, “How do you feel about that?” Leave enough room to hear their answer.
Read together: The Cups describe the wish for an honest exchange. The crossed Swords show where it can stall: neither person has to give an answer while you leave the question unasked. Say what you want plainly and listen to what they say they want.
The Two of Cups is in your “What I want” position. It does not prove that the other person feels the same way.
A decision: comparing two jobs
You have an offer for a different job. Your current role is familiar, but lately you have been bored. The new role interests you, and you still have questions about the hours.
Question: “What should I compare before choosing between my job and the new offer?”
Four of Cups · Staying in my job: The figure sits with folded arms while another cup is offered. For staying, this asks you to examine the boredom you already know. Is there a task or opportunity you have stopped considering? Ask what could change in the current role and what is likely to stay the same.
Ace of Wands · Accepting the offer: A hand holds a wand with new leaves. The new job may appeal because it offers a beginning and work you want to try. Name that work. Enthusiasm is useful information, but it does not tell you what an ordinary Tuesday in the role will involve.
Justice · What to compare: Justice holds scales and a sword. Put the terms beside each other: hours, pay, responsibilities, travel, and what each employer has agreed to. Ask the new employer about the hours before treating the offer as settled.
Read together: The Four of Cups and Ace of Wands make the contrast clear: a familiar role you have lost interest in and a new beginning you find appealing. Justice asks you to test that contrast against the actual terms. Write down what you know and ask about what is missing.
The Ace of Wands does not promise that the new employer will be better. The unresolved question about hours still needs an answer.
When a question still feels hard to answer
Write down what you know and what you are guessing. “They cancelled twice” is something you know. “They no longer want to see me” may be a guess. Your question can address how to ask them about the cancellations.
If the answer feels too broad, check the position and question again. “Be confident” is difficult to use. “Prepare an example of a problem I solved before Thursday’s interview” gives you a task you can actually finish.
If you have already drawn cards, keep their order and the positions you assigned. You can use the chooser above to enter them, or use the card combination finderto compare their general meanings. The tarot practice examplesgive you more questions and worked readings to try before revealing an answer.